Name: crazymom

Vancouver, BC CAN

Number of kids:

Ages of kids: 15 and 30 months

Problem: My problem with my 2 yr old boy is that he gets so hyper and mean. He is constantly beating on his little sister and I don't know how to get him to stop. I have removed him from the scene, sent him for time outs, I have even resorted to spanking him. I don't spank my children unless it is called for(the very last resort). I have found that taking him outside so he can burn off some of his energy has worked but is not always possible. He doesn't just hit his sister, He hits me and his father as well and we don't know what to do about it. We are not a violent family and we don't know how to deal with a violent child. I am hoping that it is just his age and not the child. I can't even take him to the local drop in center because I am afraid of what he might do to the other children. Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Solution submitted by Kaci from Sherbon, MA: I know just what you are going through. My son will be two in 4 days and he has been doing the same thing. My day care provider's son is 31 months old. He was doing the same thing to my son. We would separate them and put them in time out, then to put some responsibility on hurting the other child we would have them check on the other child. If the other kid was crying or hurt bad we made the other one get that one a tissue and dry tears, hug them and kiss them, or get an ice pack and hold it on them. Then we would say, "No hitting, hitting hurts our friends. It gives them an ouch." Two year olds understand "ouch" better then "that hurts!" Well, just keep trying. My son is driving me crazy too.