Name: Peter
Sundbyberg, Sweden
Number of kids: 2
Ages of kids: 2 and 8
Problem: When my 8-year old son Kim was 12-months old, I asked my companies posthandling dept to save nice, exiting stamps to him. He got about 200 stamps from 41 different countries. I put the stamps in a big envelope with his name on. Today he came home and said he wanted to start collecting stamps. I found the envelope and gave it to him. The problem is that I now have a new woman and we have a son, Simon, who is two years old. My new woman started shouting at me that I was a bad father who was only thinking of my oldest son. I told her that the stamps doesn't have any value. That I already before Simon's birth was giving these stamps to Kim and that I would do the same for Simon when he's old enough and as soon as I'll get a new job ( I'm unemployed at the moment ). She said I should have taken the stamps back from Kim and divide them equally between the boys. I argued I couldn't take a gift back and that Simon's to young to appreciate stamps.
No mather how I argue about this, she keeps telling me what a bad father I am. And though this problem in fact could be seen as the most trivial of problems. My woman is making threats to end our relationship because of this. She claims I'm the only father in the world who would act like this.
I know that I always tries to be as fair as possible and I love both my boys equally much!! Anybody who can help me on this?
Solution submitted by Joe: Peter, e-mail me please, we have a similar problem with our wives. Perhaps we can talk about some things and I will share with you what I have learned. It is an extremely difficult situation. rainman@rio.com Sincerely, Joe.
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