Problem: My daughter is just shy of 16. In the last three years she has undergone a transformation that we never expected. She went from being sweet, kind, thoughtful, a good student, active in sports and after-school activities, to an impulsive, coarse, rude, unpleasant person, who was involved in alcohol and drug use, sexual activity, cutting classes, and running away.
Two years ago we moved. Her grades have again fallen in school, she again is running with a low-class crowd (by that I mean other kids who have decided that life has nothing of value to offer so they should just play today - and not give any consideration to anyone or anything else), she is again talking (threatening) to leave home...it feels like a nightmare. I realize that things could be much worse - they have in fact, been worse.
Any help, suggestions, advice would be welcome!!! You can e-mail responses to email@example.com. Thanks.
Solution posted by "J-anna" from Oil City, PA: I really think you need to get this child and your family into counseling. The strain and pressure you must feel to help must be tremendous. Let professional guide you through this experience.
Another solution posted by "Meme": I would recommend a book that is excellent on the subject. It is titled "Reviving Ophelia." by Mary Pipher. It is good for anyone who is a daughter and for anyone who is raising a daughter (fathers included). (Parentsroom note: The paperback edition of this book can be ordered through The Parentsroom Bookstore by clicking on it's title above or the book jacket picture.)
In the meantime, mom, don't ever give up on her. You will get through this and she will thank you someday.
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