Name: Velvet Turner
Problem: I have a three year old son who I am potty training and it has been hard because he fights with me and when I sit him on the toilet he screams and cries. I don't know what else to do, please help me any advice will be greatly taken. I am at the end of my rope. I need help, I need some advice from someone who has potty trained a boy. My daughter was easy to train.
Solution posted by "Meg":Hi! I was 6 months pregnant with a three year old who still wasn't potty trained. I had tried everything! Books and videos about the potty. He watched his big brother. After months of frustration and house arrest (just in case he wanted to go, we stayed close to the potty), I finally resigned myself to the fact I would have two in diapers.
When the baby arrived, my husband took three weeks off from work. Within three days, my son was running up to his Daddy saying, "I need to poop!" But he still would not tell me. If my husband was out, he did it in the diaper and wanted me to change it. My husband told him he was disappointed that he wouldn't poop for mommy, too. When my husband went back to work, my son had a few more accidents, but now it's going well. If he is playing, he commissioned wets.
Why he wanted to impress Daddy and to remain my "baby," I don't know. See if your husband can take some extra time when he is home and make a fuss over his big boy. It might help.
Another Solution posted by "Delila":My son is also 3. He had no interest whatsoever in using the toilet. For awhile he was doing his "poops" in the toilet, but then just decided he didn't like that any more, and began doing it in the diaper again. The more I fought with him about it, and the bigger issue it became, the more he resisted. During this time, I was able to convince him to try doing his "pee" in the toilet. He seemed to like standing up like a big boy, like his friends and his Dad. Standing up seemed to work real well for him. Try having you son stand instead of sitting. As for the "poops," we still have to put a diaper on him for that, but this is rather common. I am just waiting it out. There's no need to rush kids into potty training. They all eventually will go in the toilet. The less emphasis we put on it, the easier it will be. Let him use the diapers if he wants, and give him some incentive to use the toilet (i.e., bribe!). If he "tries" to do pee, for instance, maybe he could have 2 M&M's. If he actually does the pee, then maybe he could have 4 or 5. (To a kid this age, a few little things are just the trick. Or if you don't like him to have candy, then stickers also work well. With my son, he knows that when he eventually does use the toilet to do his "poop," he will get a new race car for his track. Usually, once they do it once or twice on the toilet, it's all it takes to get them using it all the time.
Keep your chin up! Don't worry about it so much...in the larger scheme of things for the rest of his life, this is really a minor bump in the road!
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