Name: Susan
From: Washington, DC
Number of kid: 1 unborn son
Problem: I am the happy expectant first-time mother of a healthy baby boy. I will admit to a touch of disappointment as my wish was for a daughter. To the mothers out there who have one or the other or both, could you share with me your experiences and opinions about the differences, if any, between parenting a son and parenting a daughter? I should add that the baby's father is already the father of a 16-year-old boy who is with us on weekends.
Solution posted by "Anurag" from India: I had wanted a son all along....don't ask me why because I don't know. In our country we are not allowed to know about the sex of the unborn child. So it is only on the D-day that we come to know the answer to that most often asked question in the history of mankind. As the delivery day came closer, the only thing we wanted was a healthy and normal baby, and sex really didn't matter any more. We finally had a lovely, healthy daughter and retrospectively I find my desire for a baby boy an immature urge, without reason or basis. I am sure you will feel the same way as your D-day approaches. All the best!
Solution posted by "Lori":I see that nobody has mentioned that all you should be praying for is a healthy baby, considering the number of things that could be wrong. When that child is born and you hold him in your arms, you are going to thank God for giving you such a beautiful gift!! I cannot describe how much you will love your child, but you will see for yourself!! Good luck!!
Another solution posted by "Laura":God has blessed me with four beautiful children, three girls and one boy. Let me tell you from experience that once that baby is born, you will fall hopelessly in love with it and the fact that its a boy will be the farthest thing from your mind. If you are planning on having more children, keep in mind that having a big brother is a nice thing. As a kid, I can remember wishing I had a big brother - a protector of sorts. Trust me when I say that any disappointment you may feel now will disappear completely and your beautiful baby boy will be the most important thing in your life. You will be so proud of him. Good luck with delivery.
Another solution posted by "Rstan": Congrats on the upcoming birth of your baby boy. I hope the experience of having a child is one you will enjoy and always cherish. Now as far as the gender thing goes, I am a mother of two wonderful children. A boy and a girl. I know someone who desperately wanted a girl and kept trying for one until her third child was what she wanted. I honestly feel that if I were to have had a boy the second time around, I would have been just as happy. I only wanted a healthy child no matter what sex. But back to my friend. She had told me she would have been devastated if she had another boy. God gave her what she wanted, but it could have been much different. I feel bad for her sons as they must feel like they are not good enough. I am afraid this will only get worse as they get older. I know it may seem easy for me to say, but I love my children equally and I could never believe one would be better than the other because of gender. The friend's husband did not even want more children, but she got pregnant on purpose without his consent to try again for that girl. Imagine what things would be like if it was a boy. I feel really bad for those kids and I hope for the best for their family to keep it together. It's okay to feel a little disappointed, but you need to keep in mind what the goal here is. Once you lay eyes on that beautiful baby I'm sure you'll fall in love and sex will only be a difference in body parts! Good Luck.
Another Solution posted by "Meme": All I have to say is that once you see that beautiful baby boy you will not be able to grasp the depth of your love for him. I am lucky enough to have a son and a daughter. But I feel a special bond between my son and I. It is not easy to describe but I am sure you will experience that same bond. Good luck to you.
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