Name: Roundbelly
Danville, IN
Number of kids: 2
Ages of kids: 23 & 19
Problem: I am a mother of 2 adult children, 23 & 19 years old. My problem is letting them go. I have raised them well with good morals and family values. The oldest (girl) has a family of her own now and I am pleased with this. My youngest (boy) is madly in love. My problem is I feel so sad most of the time now because I feel they no longer need me. I have heard of the empty nest syndrome I guess I am in it. My problem is How do I let go! Any suggestions?
Solution submitted by klr: Please, do not be afraid. You have raised these children, they know right from wrong. Call, see when you can visit, include them on the daily doings at your home and encourage them to do the same.
Another solution submitted by Susie from Argyle, TX: I think I am going through the same thing that you are with one difference. I don't feel like I am not needed. I know I did a good job in raising my kids. (My oldest just left home on Saturday)I know I am needed but I just still feel this overwhelming need to protect him and I can't anymore. It's like when he lived here with his dad and I he would always be safe and now that he is on his own I feel helpless. I am involved in my work and church so I have other things to focus on and I truly believe you need to have something to take your mind off of your feelings of not being needed. I do feel time will heal all but its just miserable until it does. I sympathize totally with you.
Another solution submitted by DG from California: Of course you're sad now that the two children you raised are on their own. But you now need a new focus in life. It's time to get out and meet other adults who are in the same boat. Don't forget, you are still your kids' parent, but they have others in their life now.
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