Name: Momma Bear

Millsap, TX

Number of kids: 2

Ages of kids: 3 and 7

Problem: My 3 year old son is very defiant. He will grab things off the table and run with them. When you try to take them away, he throws them across the room. He does not do anything I tell him to do and is becoming the same way with his father. He is a very affectionate child but I can't help but feel like I am losing control. I have tried everything but nothing seems to work. My daughter was a very easy child and did just about anything asked of her. This makes if all the more frustrating for me. I am scared to death that this behavior is just a sample of things to come and I would really like to know if anyone has a solution. Thanks.

Solution submitted by Starr from MI: I have a 4 year old that is the same way and have found that if I really pay attention to what has went on before the incident of defiance that I can usually find a reason and discuss the reason with my son and figure out a solution with him. My son is a totally different kid when he doesn't get enough sleep or if his schedule has been totally thrown off. I also find it helpful to give him time alone during the day, I think that he gets overwhelmed by all the things that go on in his life and needs a little break. Maybe there is something that is leading to your son's behavior that is unseen.