Name: Renee

Sarnia, Ontario, CAN

Number of kids: 4

Ages of kids: 3, 3, 6, 9

Problem: I have a 3 year old daughter,my significant other has a 3 year old son, 6 year old daughter, and a 9 year old son. He has his children 50% of the time. We have a wonderful loving relationship, and communicate well, because as you know that is the key thing in a situation such as this. I find myself constantly battling the "being fair and equal" issue, especially concerning his daughter and mine. He is a fabulous father, and nothing means more to him than his children. I honestly couldn't tell you if I am first or not, and that really doesn't bother me, and I would never ask him either. His daughter is his little girl, and I don't know if he'll ever look at my daughter in the same manner. Or if it just takes time to develop that bond. We've been together for almost a year and we both have discussed marriage. His daughter is jealous of me and my daughter. If I am talking to him she'll interrupt, if I'm hugging him she'll want up, and he gives her the attention. That hurts me because we're the adults and she has to see that we aren't here to take her place or take attention away from her. But he has to show her that by saying no sometimes. Plus he needs to bond with my daughter in front of his girl in order for her to except this situation. I feel as if I have to compete with a six year old and I don't know if I can win. I get along great with his boys. All of his children are very needy of him and maybe it's because they're dealing with the divorce. We met soon after their separation. Any suggestions are very welcome. We have a long road ahead, and I'm not going to give up hope!

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